Offer one wanted, bounded helpful action without taking over or sacrificing yourself

Reset: Re-read this authored instruction — “Write or say the observable cue, such as “You have been quiet and missed lunch,” without assigning a diagnosis or story.” — and its success check, then attempt only this step.

1. Possible snag: Say “I know exactly how you feel” from one visible cue.

   Correction: Write or say the observable cue, such as “You have been quiet and missed lunch,” without assigning a diagnosis or story.

Stop / get help: Stop ordinary practice and use safeguarding, crisis or emergency routes for disclosed abuse, imminent harm, medical danger or inability to stay safe.

Reset: Re-read this authored instruction — “Ask a neutral question such as “Would support be useful, or would you prefer space?” and accept no answer.” — and its success check, then attempt only this step.

1. Possible snag: Demand the full story before offering respect or space.

   Correction: Ask a neutral question such as “Would support be useful, or would you prefer space?” and accept no answer.

Stop / get help: Stop ordinary practice and use safeguarding, crisis or emergency routes for disclosed abuse, imminent harm, medical danger or inability to stay safe.

Reset: Re-read this authored instruction — “State what belongs to you, what belongs to the other person and what needs a professional or system.” — and its success check, then attempt only this step.

1. Possible snag: Assume caring makes the entire problem your responsibility.

   Correction: State what belongs to you, what belongs to the other person and what needs a professional or system.

Stop / get help: Stop ordinary practice and use safeguarding, crisis or emergency routes for disclosed abuse, imminent harm, medical danger or inability to stay safe.

Reset: Re-read this authored instruction — “Offer one or two actions you can genuinely provide, including duration or amount, such as ten minutes of listening or sharing a resource.” — and its success check, then attempt only this step.

1. Possible snag: Offer “anything you need” with no limit.

   Correction: Offer one or two actions you can genuinely provide, including duration or amount, such as ten minutes of listening or sharing a resource.

Stop / get help: Stop ordinary practice and use safeguarding, crisis or emergency routes for disclosed abuse, imminent harm, medical danger or inability to stay safe.

Reset: Re-read this authored instruction — “If the person chooses an option, restate it. If they decline, acknowledge the refusal and do not argue that help is needed.” — and its success check, then attempt only this step.

1. Possible snag: Treat refusal as evidence that the person does not know what is good for them.

   Correction: If the person chooses an option, restate it. If they decline, acknowledge the refusal and do not argue that help is needed.

Stop / get help: Stop ordinary practice and use safeguarding, crisis or emergency routes for disclosed abuse, imminent harm, medical danger or inability to stay safe.

Reset: Re-read this authored instruction — “Complete only the agreed part and leave decisions with the person. Do not contact others or share information without authority unless an emergency duty applies.” — and its success check, then attempt only this step.

1. Possible snag: The result from “Complete only the agreed part and leave decisions with the person. Do not contact others or share information without authority unless an emergency duty applies.” does not yet meet this declared check: The action stays inside consent, privacy and role.

   Correction: Return to the start of “Act without taking over”, reduce complexity or pace, and repeat only the part needed to satisfy: “The action stays inside consent, privacy and role.”

Stop / get help: Stop ordinary practice and use safeguarding, crisis or emergency routes for disclosed abuse, imminent harm, medical danger or inability to stay safe.

Reset: Re-read this authored instruction — “Ask whether the action helped, was neutral or added burden; privately rate your time, emotion and resource cost.” — and its success check, then attempt only this step.

1. Possible snag: The result from “Ask whether the action helped, was neutral or added burden; privately rate your time, emotion and resource cost.” does not yet meet this declared check: The record includes both perspectives without demanding gratitude.

   Correction: Return to the start of “Check impact and cost”, reduce complexity or pace, and repeat only the part needed to satisfy: “The record includes both perspectives without demanding gratitude.”

Stop / get help: Stop ordinary practice and use safeguarding, crisis or emergency routes for disclosed abuse, imminent harm, medical danger or inability to stay safe.

Reset: Re-read this authored instruction — “End at the stated limit. Offer an appropriate professional or community route when the need exceeds your role, and allow the person to choose unless safety law requires action.” — and its success check, then attempt only this step.

1. Possible snag: The result from “End at the stated limit. Offer an appropriate professional or community route when the need exceeds your role, and allow the person to choose unless safety law requires action.” does not yet meet this declared check: The interaction ends on time with no hidden ongoing promise.

   Correction: Return to the start of “Close or refer”, reduce complexity or pace, and repeat only the part needed to satisfy: “The interaction ends on time with no hidden ongoing promise.”

Stop / get help: Stop ordinary practice and use safeguarding, crisis or emergency routes for disclosed abuse, imminent harm, medical danger or inability to stay safe.