# PWR-168 — Compassion regulation: learner worksheet Release: Revision 7T · Full Tutorial Edition Estimated time: Estimated 29 min reading and worksheet pass Difficulty: Intermediate Equipment: Basic stationery or digital tools — a brief compassion response to a fictional or low-intensity situation.; Scenario cards and a response sheet for observation, uncertainty, offered options, consent, boundary, recipient response and cost.; A list of professional or community resources for needs beyond the learner’s role. Space: Desk / seated Automated structural checklist: 10 of 10 structural checks present Evidence quality/context: G2; Focused research depth Automated method-quality band: Comprehensive Method-rating basis: Structure coverage, instruction/check specificity, alternative distinctness, source troubleshooting, comparison depth and whether purpose/check fields are authored rather than derived. Editorial review: Pending manual editorial sign off ## Before you begin - [ ] I read the tutorial authority and stop conditions. - [ ] I have the required equipment/space or a declared accessible alternative. ## Canonical source context This lesson teaches compassion as noticing possible suffering, checking rather than assuming, separating empathy from responsibility, offering choices, setting a limit and reviewing recipient impact and personal cost. Compassion does not require rescue, forgiveness or endless availability. Target outcome: In three fictional or low-intensity situations, the learner offers one consented bounded action, respects refusal and records both recipient response and personal cost. ### Authority and setup conditions - Prepare a fictional or everyday low-intensity situation in which support can be offered and freely declined - Before the first compassion regulation attempt, write the exact result you will score: Chosen boundaried action and recipient impact with personal cost recorded. - Use no crisis, abuse, confidential disclosure, dependent relationship or need requiring professional care. - Check your own time, energy, money and role before offering anything. ### Required or supplied materials - a brief compassion response to a fictional or low-intensity situation. - Scenario cards and a response sheet for observation, uncertainty, offered options, consent, boundary, recipient response and cost. - A list of professional or community resources for needs beyond the learner’s role. ## 1. Describe what you actually noticed Write or say the observable cue, such as “You have been quiet and missed lunch,” without assigning a diagnosis or story. Why: Observation opens contact without claiming private knowledge. Success check: The description could be checked and contains no mind-reading. Accessible alternative: Complete the same research action — “Write or say the observable cue, such as “You have been quiet and missed lunch,” without assigning a diagnosis or story.” — using speech-to-text, text-to-speech, enlarged text, keyboard-only navigation, shorter work blocks or a support person. Preserve this declared check: “The description could be checked and contains no mind-reading.” Do not convert the research task into capability practice. Alternative relationship: Target preserving when declared check is preserved Learner notes: ________________________________________________________________________________ Completed: [ ] ## 2. Check rather than assume Ask a neutral question such as “Would support be useful, or would you prefer space?” and accept no answer. Why: The person owns the meaning of their experience and whether help is wanted. Success check: The question offers at least two valid options and no demand to explain. Accessible alternative: Complete “Ask a neutral question such as “Would support be useful, or would you prefer space?” and accept no answer.” in shorter passes, or use keyboard input, dictation or a support person, while preserving this success check: “The question offers at least two valid options and no demand to explain.” Offer support through the person’s preferred mode, allow extra response time, accept no eye contact or disclosure and make refusal easy and consequence-free. Alternative relationship: Target preserving when declared check is preserved Learner notes: ________________________________________________________________________________ Completed: [ ] ## 3. Separate care from responsibility State what belongs to you, what belongs to the other person and what needs a professional or system. Why: Empathy does not create unlimited personal duty. Success check: The learner can name one role limit and one appropriate external route. Accessible alternative: Complete “State what belongs to you, what belongs to the other person and what needs a professional or system.” in shorter passes, or use keyboard input, dictation or a support person, while preserving this success check: “The learner can name one role limit and one appropriate external route.” Keep usual aids for Compassion regulation; record each support inside the compassion regulation setup. Alternative relationship: Target preserving when declared check is preserved Learner notes: ________________________________________________________________________________ Completed: [ ] ## 4. Offer two bounded options Offer one or two actions you can genuinely provide, including duration or amount, such as ten minutes of listening or sharing a resource. Why: Specific limits make consent and follow-through clearer. Success check: Each option names what, how long or how much, and can be declined. Accessible alternative: Replace spoken or audio cues with visible text, captions or haptic timing while keeping the same sequence and success check. Accessible opening check for Compassion regulation: The description could be checked and contains no mind-reading. Alternative relationship: Target preserving when declared check is preserved Learner notes: ________________________________________________________________________________ Completed: [ ] ## 5. Listen to the answer If the person chooses an option, restate it. If they decline, acknowledge the refusal and do not argue that help is needed. Why: Compassion respects autonomy rather than measuring success by acceptance. Success check: The final action matches the person’s choice or stops after refusal. Accessible alternative: Replace small or visual-only information with enlarged text, high-contrast display, spoken description or tactile/verbal cueing while preserving the same decision and success check. Offer support through the person’s preferred mode, allow extra response time, accept no eye contact or disclosure and make refusal easy and consequence-free. Alternative relationship: Target preserving when declared check is preserved Learner notes: ________________________________________________________________________________ Completed: [ ] ## 6. Act without taking over Complete only the agreed part and leave decisions with the person. Do not contact others or share information without authority unless an emergency duty applies. Why: Helping can become controlling when scope expands silently. Success check: The action stays inside consent, privacy and role. Accessible alternative: Complete “Complete only the agreed part and leave decisions with the person. Do not contact others or share information without authority unless an emergency duty applies.” in shorter passes, or use keyboard input, dictation or a support person, while preserving this success check: “The action stays inside consent, privacy and role.” Keep usual aids for Compassion regulation; record each support inside the compassion regulation setup. Alternative relationship: Target preserving when declared check is preserved Learner notes: ________________________________________________________________________________ Completed: [ ] ## 7. Check impact and cost Ask whether the action helped, was neutral or added burden; privately rate your time, emotion and resource cost. Why: Recipient benefit and helper cost are separate outcomes. Success check: The record includes both perspectives without demanding gratitude. Accessible alternative: Complete “Ask whether the action helped, was neutral or added burden; privately rate your time, emotion and resource cost.” in shorter passes, or use keyboard input, dictation or a support person, while preserving this success check: “The record includes both perspectives without demanding gratitude.” Accessible opening check for Compassion regulation: The description could be checked and contains no mind-reading. Alternative relationship: Target preserving when declared check is preserved Learner notes: ________________________________________________________________________________ Completed: [ ] ## 8. Close or refer End at the stated limit. Offer an appropriate professional or community route when the need exceeds your role, and allow the person to choose unless safety law requires action. Why: A clean close prevents dependency and burnout while preserving support. Success check: The interaction ends on time with no hidden ongoing promise. Accessible alternative: Complete “End at the stated limit. Offer an appropriate professional or community route when the need exceeds your role, and allow the person to choose unless safety law requires action.” in shorter passes, or use keyboard input, dictation or a support person, while preserving this success check: “The interaction ends on time with no hidden ongoing promise.” Offer support through the person’s preferred mode, allow extra response time, accept no eye contact or disclosure and make refusal easy and consequence-free. Alternative relationship: Target preserving when declared check is preserved Learner notes: ________________________________________________________________________________ Completed: [ ] ## Reflection What changed? ________________________________________________________________________________ What remains difficult? ________________________________________________________________________________ What will I repeat, adapt, ask for help with, or stop? ________________________________________________________________________________ --- Completion of this worksheet demonstrates tutorial participation only. It does not establish capability, qualification, safety clearance, diagnosis, treatment or independent validation.